Seska - FAQ

I recently moved and I am taking a temporary hiatus while I arrange my new home for my home office and webcam shows. In the meantime I recommend you check out the live webcam shows at Rude. It is where I will be broadcasting my shows when I return.

2) Can I IM you?

I do not offer this service.

3) Do you have an online journal or blog?

Actually, I have three: my personal journal, my sex news and education blog and my burlesque blog. You cal also follow me on Twitter.

4) Why did you create an adult website?

I became interested in creating an adult website through my experiences in the "alternative lifestyle" scene. (See question 5 for more details about that). The lifestyle gave me a sense of sexual freedom that I had never felt before. Then, in the spring of 1998 I decided that an adult website would be a great way for me to express myself sexually and to share my views and experiences with the world. I began working on my site in the fall and in January 1999 I launched my members-only website.

5) How did you become involved in the "alternative lifestyle" scene?

During the winter of 1995 I started attending fetish nights at a local club with a girlfriend of mine. With my boyfriend's knowledge, I had my first one night stand ever with a guy I met there. That night, things just clicked for me. I realized that sex and love were two very different things and that I could experience them not only together, but separately as well. Then one year or so later, when I took part in a threesome, I realized that I liked group sex. From that point on, things kind of snowballed. I continued to go to the fetish nights and swingers' parties and I explored my exhibitionist nature. Through the "scene", I have made some wonderful friends. It has also allowed me to evolve as a person and instilled in me the value of freedom of expression, freedom of choice, trust and honesty.

6) What about safer sex? Aren't you afraid of HIV/AIDS?

I practice safer sex with my partners. There are certain things I will do and certain things I won't. Each of us has to make decisions about our sexual limits and boundaries and that includes how safe we want to be. Some people choose complete abstinence or monogamy. I haven't chosen those options, but I respect those who have. In return, I hope people can respect my choices and limits. If someone isn't comfortable with my level of safeness, then they don't have to have sex with me. This goes both ways.

7) When did you first realize you were bisexual?

I first felt attracted to girls when I was about 12 years old. At the time I had no idea what these feelings meant, so I basically ignored them. As a teenager I continued to be aroused by women. I would watch movies with nude scenes of women and then rewind and watch the scenes again (and again and again!). I was completely turned on by the sight of a woman's breasts, her curves, and her sexuality. At around the age of 20 I became interested in being with another woman. Sometimes I would watch movies and imagine myself with the women I saw. A few years later I went to lesbian clubs, but because I had a boyfriend I wasn't of much interest to the women at the clubs. It also could have been my terrible flirting style (I am very shy and aloof when I first meet people; I can't pick up a man, much less a woman!). Then, finally, I took part in a threesome with a friend of mine and a male friend of hers. Now, I am no longer shy or concerned about my bisexuality. It is a part of who I am.

8) How old were you when you first had sexual intercourse?

I feel like a cliché when I think back to my youthful past. I was a bit of a square and I did not date during high school. Things changed when I went to college. I engaged in some more serious flirtations and fooled around a bit with boys at parties. Then at the end of my first year I fell in love. We became serious very quickly. After about a month of dating we had sexual intercourse. It was very well planned and something I never regretted.

9) When did you first have anal sex?

I can't remember the exact date, but it must have been 6 months or so into my most serious relationship. The first time was pretty good. I lubed myself up and I basically tried to relax and breathe through the discomfort (yes, it can be a bit painful, especially the first couple of times when you do not know what to expect). Once things got going it was very good. I remember vividly how it felt when he came inside of me. It was like nothing I had ever felt before. Anal sex for me is something I only do with someone I feel very close to. There has to be some BIG feelings of lust and closeness. It is not something I regularly do, but when I am in the mood and with the right person, I very much enjoy it.

10) How did you become involved with BDSM?

I am not heavily into the BDSM scene, but it is an interest of mine. I have attended private play parties in the past and I do enjoy attending public events from time to time to soak up the atmosphere and to be a voyeur in on the play. I also enjoy wearing fetish inspired clothing and going out to fetish nights gives me the perfect opportunity to wear my sexy outfits. I am not turned on by pain – receiving it or inflicting it, but I do enjoy certain forms of sensation play, like spanking (under certain circumstances) and role playing.

11) What are your fetishes?

I don't have any true fetishes. However, I do know of some specific things that excite me. Here is a selection...

Music is a huge one. Certain songs just drive me wild. When I hear them I am instantly turned on. Basically, music can put me in the mood. It all depends on the song.

Water is another turn on. I love taking baths and showers. I suppose the feeling is so sensual that it revs me up. Of course, a shower massage doesn't hurt! I also love to skinny dip, especially in the ocean or even in a lake (as long as it isn't murky). I've skinny dipped in pools, lakes, the Atlantic ocean, the Caribbean, and even in a stream created by a beaver dam. I've done it by myself, but it is always much more fun with other people.

Dressing up turns me on. I love wearing high heels, vintage stockings, garter belts, and retro pin up fashion. From time to time I also enjoy fetish attire such as PVC and latex. Dressing up makes me feel feminine, powerful and sexy.

12) Can I meet you ? Can I have sex with you?

If you would like to meet me , please come to one of the events listed on my website. They are the only places I meet people who contact me via my site. Keep in mind that I am never alone at these events. I always have a companion for security.

As for having sex with me, most likely no. My site may make it seem that I am sexually available to many people, but I am not. I am very selective about my partners. I like to be with people who turn me on and with whom I share chemistry. I think it only makes sense that you have sex with people you are attracted to. The attraction, for me, is usually a mix of physical and personality attributes. It is something I can't quite pin down, but my "type" is healthy, clean, funny, kind, and a little bit wicked. I rarely ever have sex with people I meet through my site with the exception of other webgals like myself.

13) Where do you get your sex toys?

For the last few years I have been getting my toys from Come As You Are - Canada's co-operatively run sex toy, book and video store. I really appreciate their approach to sexuality and pleasure so I always feel good getting my toys from them. They are located in Toronto, but they also have a convenient online store.

14) Can you send me your picture, your autograph?

Unfortunately due to the great demand I get for autographs, and the fact that I run my site myself, I just don't have the means to supply them. I am more than happy to sign autographs in person at the public events listed on my website. I also cannot send out or e-mail pictures. If you want to see more pictures you should consider getting a membership to my site.

15) Where can I read an independent review of your site?

You can read what other people have to say about my site at www.thebestporn.com, www.janesguide.com and at www.pornliving.com.

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